How To Master Civility In Your Home

How To Master Civility In Your Home

Recently I read a business book written by Christine Porath entitled Mastering Civility.  This author has written numerous books and articles over the years. She is well known in the business world.  The book was written to address challenges that are facing corporations around the globe in the area of workplace protocol.  Mastering Civility was written to provide managers and employers with ideas to help improve the atmosphere and quality of their workplaces.

You may be reading this and thinking, “Ok Ric, so you read a business book that has nothing to do with parenting … so what?”  Well, here’s the “so what?”.  This book outlined several thoughts that I believe would help every family operate in a more “civil” way.  Below are seven simple ideas from the book that will help you improve the atmosphere in your home.  Maybe if we teach these principles to our kids and practice them as parents, we’ll be able to master civility in our homes as well.

Smile more often:  I know we are stressed, tired, and still have things to do.  But putting on a smile will soften the load and put you in a good mood.  Anyway, smiles are contagious!

Listen more, talk less: Become a master at listening to your family members.  Listen with your ears, your eyes, and your heart.  Seek to understand not only what others are saying but also what is being said.

Don’t judge too quickly: Think before you react.  Empathize.  Look at the big picture.  You get it.

Be helpful:  Seek to serve.  Offer good advice.  Give your time.  Assist as needed.  Be a problem solver.

Be respectful:  Work on choosing your words carefully.  Treat your family members as you would like to be treated.  Your kids will learn how to respect others by watching you.  So, get this right.

Be a coach:  Teach, lead, motivate, encourage, model, teach again, and offer praise.  Cast vision, discuss the family game plan, strategies for success, and give helpful instructions.  Enjoy the “wins.”  Learn from the “loses.”

Celebrate successes: Recognize when things are going great, when someone thrives, and when your family team has excelled.  Do something fun together to acknowledge the win.  And in all things give God the glory for all He is doing, has done, and will do.

Ephesians 4:32 says “And be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.”

Praying that your family will master civility in the days and weeks ahead,

Ric Callahan